Some girls always have questions about pleasure products, the most common being, "Will the vibrations desensitizie my clit?" "What if I have such intense orgasms that I stop enjoy sex with my partner?" "Can I get addicted to my sex toys?" "What if the vibrators stretches me out?"

First, introducing sex toys in your intimate space, whether alone or with a partner, is an empowering decision for any vulva owner. You got this, girl! While genital-oriented sex toys like clit stimulators and G-spot vibrators offer enhanced sexual stimulation, non-genital-based massagers are ideal for experimenting and exploring your pleasure outside the vulva. And no, your sex toys won't make you loose, physically or morally.

Second, a sex toy is not a replacement for the human touch a partner brings to the bedroom, but is an enhancement for all partners involved. Life's too short for bad sex, babies. And while you may experience brief numbness after using a vibrator,especially if you have a sensitive chacha or set it on high speed/intensity, don't freak out! It's perfectly normal. Try going slow the next time and pause when you feel overstimulated.

On the contrary, you aren't addicted to your vibrator—at least not chemically. Using it won't render you incapable of manually generated orgasms, but it might make them seem like they require more time and effort in comparison. The Magic Wand also puts you on a fast track to the end of your orgasmic journey, shortening the time you spend in the beginning phases of orgasm known as arousal and orgasmic plateau. These two stages occur before climax and are characterized by increased vaginal lubrication, swelling of the clitoris, increased blood flow, and the release of feel-good hormones like oxytocin and nitric oxide. A strong vibrator like the Magic Wand can condense all of that into a very short amount of time, and you might even bypass the plateau phase altogether. If that's happening to you, it's good to remind yourself (and your body) what the slow and scenic route to orgasm feels like.

Just like with sex, it is important to try new methods and new techniques to discover the most effective way(s) to get yourself off. For that reason, I do think you should experiment (though if you're happy relying on a vibrator, to each her own!). But if you don't want to get rusty at other methods of having an orgasm, you have to practice. And it's especially helpful to use your hands directly on your lady parts once in a while because you can better direct someone else's fingers if you know what to do with them.

So, to sum this all up, I recommend finding a balance between your hands and your vibrator. You can even integrate the two—start off with a low vibration, tease yourself a little through the arousal phase, get yourself revved up again with the vibrator, and then switch to your fingers to bring it home. The best of both worlds!

Here are some vibrators for beginners:

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